Yalini Nirmalarajah

Life hasn’t always been easy. I was only six when my father died of cancer and my mother was left widowed with three children under the age of ten. Given that money doesn’t grow on trees, I understand what it is to struggle. So much of my early life was filled with pain and suffering that my heart simply shut down. It was too much for me to bear. My emotions felt like a weakness, so to survive, my mind became my refuge, a safe haven from the pain I no longer wished to feel. At least in my mind I could push through and pretend I was ‘fine’ because when I was in my mind, I didn’t feel vulnerable. Instead, I felt like I had control and this allowed me to feel safe. But no matter how far you run, you can’t escape feeling your emotions forever. Eventually, they catch up with you, and you don’t get to pick the time or the place. For me, the pain I bottled up ultimately plunged me into a deep depression. Then life felt like one roadblock after another as I suffered from glandular fever, then chronic fatigue. It wasn't until I reached my breaking point with this life that something shifted and forced me to make a change. There had to be a better way because this wasn’t the life I wanted to live. So I had to make a decision, continue to be a 'warrior' and live a life of solitude, or be brave enough to open up, be vulnerable and ask for help. I realised that I had spent my life trying to protect myself from pain and hurt that I ended up rejecting the one thing that I craved most. Love. I had a support network around me that wanted to love me but I just had to let them. Through opening up, I ventured on my personal wellness journey which forced me to confront the reality that I had been wearing my pain like a badge of honour. The story of being a ‘survivor’ had formed such an integral part of my identity that I didn’t know who I was without it. But as scary as that thought was, the idea of continuing to live a life of suffering, simply for the sake of clinging on to an old identity, was even more painful. In the end, by giving myself permission to let go of the outdated stories, I was offering myself an invitation to rediscover my true self and potential. Through my study of psychology I had learned about the mind. But through hypnotherapy, I learned how to harness its potential to create deep and powerful changes. This is why I am so passionate about hypnotherapy, it helps you unlock the power that already exists within you. With hypnotherapy, I began to heal and release deep seated wounds and beliefs that no longer served me. I had powerful breakthroughs and shifts. The experience was transformative, I felt lighter and freer. But something was missing. I realised that doing the work in my mind alone wasn’t enough. I had to put things into practice. For me to fully integrate my learnings and more deeply release the past, I had to learn to become comfortable in my heart, to be vulnerable with myself and to sit with my feelings. Because the simple truth is, there’s nothing you can do to avoid feeling. It takes courage to let down your walls, to feel safe enough to feel and see deeper into your being. It’s a scary thought when you’ve built your life around not feeling in an attempt to protect yourself. But hypnotherapy helped me feel more comfortable with this, it helped me clear a backlog of emotions which prepared me to feel safe and ready to sit in my heart. It helped me to recognise the support network I had around me and that it was safe to receive. Over the years, I had learned to be great at giving, but not receiving, because receiving requires you to be vulnerable, to put yourself out there and say you need help, and this invariably requires courage. But as humans, we’re not built to be lone wolves. It’s important to reach out and connect. We're here to love and be loved. Our feelings and vulnerability are the bridge for this connection. And although some feelings can hurt, they can also humble us, they make us real and allow our connections to build in deep and meaningful ways. They are the binding force for community and connection and allow us to invite more love into our lives.  This is where my heart centred work began. Through reconnecting to myself, I came home to my truth and the essence of my being. I learned to feel safe to feel and to sit with my emotions, to understand the messages they were communicating. Because our emotions are simply messages, they're a feedback loop letting us know if something does or doesn't feel right for us. By listening and tuning inward, my messages finally got delivered and I learned how to speak up and take appropriate action. The cost of stuffing things down was no longer worth it and I was free from the pressure cooker of my emotions. Over years of dedicated conscious work and self-actualisation, my intuitive healing abilities were then activated. I became a conduit for energetic healings through light language transmissions. This helped balance the frequency of my heart to bring me back into harmony with my mind so I could learn to trust myself. The oppressive weight on my chest was lifted and I was safe to start living in harmony and synchronicity with my true self again. Life is full of possibilities and through my personal journey, I now believe that there’s an opportunity and gift in everything. Even the challenges and 'bad' relationships invite me to grow. Through this perspective, life is always happening for me, not to me, and all experiences are gifts for my own evolution. And so too they can be for you. My desire to support you in the most profound way has resulted in many years of extensive study. I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology, as well as a post-graduate and masters degree in social and political science. I am a certified master practitioner of hypnotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming and timeline therapy. I also have extensive post-graduate training in pain elimination, quantum consciousness, rebirthing breathwork, iridology, sclerology, health and wellness.  It is my honour and privilege to remind you that your mind, heart and body are incredible and divine. You are a gift of love unto this world and you are worthy of receiving great love in equal measure. If you're ready to journey together, I can help you get ready for love.